In February, 2008, I had been in contact with Susana about her impending birth, she had mentioned that she may ask for me to attend. Any birth that I witness I consider a great privilege and honor.
In the
wee hours of the morning Susana called and asked if I could come, we spoke about the timing and intensity of her contractions, she was very calm and detailed, I figured she had at least 4 more hours to go.
I immediately left to drive the 30 min to her house. When I arrived I met Robert for the first time, he was quietly arranging things for Susana's comfort and spoke with such gentle voices and calm demeanor I felt like he did not need my assistance. I spoke with Susana while she was in the tub, she at this point had already started moaning and yawing through her waves. Within 15 minutes of my arrival she was ready to push.
She was in control and spoke briefly in between contractions. I felt the need to encourage her onto her hands and knees, when I spoke she told me to hush.
She labored onto her hands and knees, and baby immediately crowned face first. After another push (possibly two?) Baby Boy was gently born into his Father's hands.
When Susana felt ready, we wrapped baby in blankets and she cleaned up and transferred to her bed. The placenta had not detached and with gently pushing and adjusting her position, she had no luck in getting the placenta out.
I was worried about infection, and I was inexperienced in how long to wait for a placenta to deliver without harm to mother. Cord had stopped pulsing for at least an hour and we felt she would be more comfortable if the cord was cut. Robert cut the cord and we diapered baby and wrapped him up . Everyone was so gentle and kind, When Robert woke the kids and told them their new brother had arrived he was such a gentle father, so loving and kind to all of his family, you could tell he was so proud to be a pappa!
After another hour we decided to transport Susana to the Trenton Hospital where they could help in delivering the placenta. We wrapped Susana up to stay warm and I drove her to the hospital. I knew
then the reason I was needed, NOT to attend a birth, but to be a support to her in going to the hospital. The Dr. on staff was surprisingly neutral to her need. he did not make any derogatory comment that I remember, other than the hospital was not allowed to give her the placenta to take home .
She was able to argue that it was her organ and she had the right to take it home (to which she did.)
The confidence and peaceful environment were so impressive to me, the family was wonderfully supportive and I was impressed with how lovingly Susana's baby entered into his family.
Dee, friend, and witness of miracles.